At what age does separation anxiety start in babies?

Separation anxiety in babies typically begins around 6 to 8 months of age, as babies start to develop object permanence and become more aware of their attachment to their primary caregiver. It usually peaks between 10 and 18 months, and most children grow out of it naturally by the age of 2 to 3.

Is separation anxiety normal in 3-year-olds?

Yes, separation anxiety can be normal at 3, particularly around new transitions like starting nursery or preschool. Most children at this age are beginning to develop the understanding and language to process separations, and with a consistent routine and positive goodbyes, many settle quickly. If the anxiety is severe or persistent, it's worth mentioning to your health visitor or GP.

What should I do if my child cries every time I leave?

Stay calm and consistent. Keep goodbyes brief, warm, and predictable - a short hug and a clear 'I'll be back after lunch' is more helpful than a long, drawn-out farewell. Avoid sneaking out, as this tends to make children more anxious over time. If the crying continues long after you've gone, check in with the carer and, if needed, talk to your health visitor.

Can a clingy child develop separation anxiety disorder?

Being clingy is not the same as having separation anxiety disorder. Most clingy children are simply going through a normal developmental phase. Separation anxiety disorder is a clinical condition where the anxiety is persistent, severe, and significantly disrupts daily life - preventing school attendance, sleep, or normal social activity. If you're concerned, speak to your GP, who can assess whether a referral to CAMHS is appropriate.

How can I help my child settle with a new babysitter?

Introduce the babysitter gradually - ideally with a meet-up at home before the first sit, while you're still there. Let your child set the pace in terms of warming up. Share information about your child's routines, favourite toys, and any known triggers with the sitter. Choosing a sitter with experience looking after young children helps too, and reading reviews from other parents can give you confidence before the first booking.